“I need a sabbatical” I wailed to my coach a few months ago, my lofty 2017 goals and extensive “to do” list lined up in my journal like soldiers waiting for my command.
“But where will I find the time?” I wondered. “What about my clients? My projects? My revenue?”
I had fantasized about the sabbatical on my 1-week vacation in March on a cay in Belize, mapping it out in my mind and revelling in how wonderful it would feel.
Recently, I have coaching a client to prepare her 6-month sabbatical later this year. Funny, it often happens that the very thing I am coaching a client on, is what I myself need.
“Marguerite, we are going to hold off this project for a few months as we need to do some other things before we start.”
This, earlier this month, from a client with whom I had been negotiating an 18-month project to start early this year. As I pressed the red “end call” icon (we don’t hang up phones anymore, do we), I realised that my wish for the time and space of a sabbatical had been granted. Not by any conscious planning on my part, but by my repeated and passionate declarations.
“Be careful what you wish for, because you will get it” my spiritual mother and dear friend Rev. Elma used to say to me years ago when I lived In Jamaica.
According to Dictionary.com, a sabbatical refers to “any extended period of leave from one’s customary work, especially for rest, to acquire new skills or training, etc.” It has been used mainly in academia, where faculty are granted up to a year’s leave to research. But its root is in the spiritual practice of the Sabbath, a day of rest and reflection. An extended period of leave from my customary work was exactly what I wanted, and what my client had gifted me.
And so, over the last month, and in the next 6 weeks or so, I am on sabbatical, or my version of it. Whilst I complete some coaching assignments, I am developing and launching new products, such as Nourish to Flourish, a program to help leadership teams communicate effectively and joyfully, once and for all – click here for more information. And experimenting with others – a membership program and popup coaching on specific issues, like how to take a great vacation. I am also completing my final creative writing project, which I will publish later this year as a book. And spending time with family and friends, lots of yoga, reading and getting into podcasts.
After the big gulp of accepting this time of a much slower pace (yes, this is slower for me) outside of my comfort zone of client commitments and workshop deadlines, I inhale the space that is igniting my creativity and joy. And of course, I reflect on the lessons and insights:
- No matter how busy we are, how demanding our job, we need the ebbs in the flow of life to rest and recharge. It takes courage to step away, to recognise that we are not so indispensable after all, and to focus on taking care of our own needs. It takes courage, if we are pushed into the ebb, to surface and go with the flow.
- Whatever you need is provided. I had hesitated about a sabbatical because I thought I needed a massive amount of money to do it. In a moment of panic about how I would get through this period financially, I realised that I have more than enough.
- “Be careful what you wish for because you will get it.” I watch my words with diligence, as I marvel at how my casual declarations of a desire for a sabbatical manifested with absolute precision. I am clear that if this manifested, then so will my other desires and intentions.
It’s summer. Many of you will be on vacation. Have you ever thought of taking a sabbatical? Is there a new skill you would like to learn? Something to research? A book to write? Perhaps a sabbatical is something to think about, commit to and plan, as you vacate.
Good for you Marguerite for taking time for you doing the things you love! You have been given a gift…the gift of time! We all have the same amt of time….whether you are the Pope, the Prime Minister, the employee, the consultant, the stay at home mom etc. You have the choice of what you do with that time! How wonderful for you!
Thank you Sharon. Yes, the gift of time, which we are all given. It’s just a matter of how best to use it. Hope to hear about your sabbatical too!
Joyously
Marguerite
I loved reading about your experiences and the “mind-hurdles” you were facing before doing it, which I can so much relate to! I was somewhat doing a sabbatical just recently…I was taking an art course. Beforehand, there were plenty of doubts, mostly because I didn’t even know why exactly I was doing it and if it’s going to be of any use. Looking backwards tough taking some time away was absolutely worth it. There is something you get out of every action you take. I got to improve my painting, met awesome people and had a lot of fun. Thank you for sharing Marguerite and the encouragement for taking further sabbaticals.
Dear Silke
Thank you for sharing your own experience with a sabbatical. And what you said about getting something out of every action you take is so true – we just need to take our time and see the lesson. Look forward to hearing about more sabbaticals in the future.
Joyously
Marguerite
I once heard a featured commencement speaker say “every set back is a set up for a step forward”. I really enjoyed reading how you translated what some may perceive as a set back, to a set up for that step towards a sabbatical you really wanted but were reluctant to take. Thanks as usual for sharing – more than the value of the sabbatical itself your story reminds me of the importance to see the opportunities for growth in every experience and of course to be careful what you wish for!
Thank you Sarah, for sharing that quote, which I further expand as: “every set back is a setup for that step forward”
WOW – what a powerful sentiment. Indeed, it’s a great affirmation. If we greeted each set “setback” with “This setback is simply a setup for a step forward to my highest good” would we ever complain?
Joyously
Marguerite